6 Things Men Should Never Say To a Woman When Trying To Pick Her Up
You’ve watched TV, listened to your buddies, and read a pickup line book, and now you are heading out to use those lines on women. The great thing is you did some research! The bad thing is that pickup lines don’t generally work on women, and they may even turn them off of you completely. Here are a few things you should never say to women when trying to win them over.
1. Do I Know You From Somewhere?
Yep this sounds great and it does get her attention at first, but it’s commonly used and she will most likely see right through it as a pickup line.
If she doesn’t see through it then she may be racking her brain trying to figure out where she knows you from and you may cause more stress than anything on her. Also, people have a way of screwing up memories so if she does remember you as a jerk she knew (even though you have never really met you) she may not want to see you again and lose your number!
2. You’re Gorgeous… Can I Have Your Number?
Picking up a woman by telling her that she is gorgeous and then asking her for her number is saying that you are interested in her looks and don’t care about anything else.
You have not took the time to let her show you how she thinks, her interests, her witty sense of humor, or anything else for that matter. All you have done is sized her up like piece of meat and went in for the kill. You haven’t even given her a chance to see if she likes YOU and finds you witty and charming. She will feel like a piece of meat when you do this and most likely turn you down right away or by ignoring your calls.
Tip: Remember this point with a woman you find really beautiful as she probably gets this line used a lot on her and will find it refreshing to meet a guy who’s interested in more than her looks.
3. “Can I kiss you?”
Ask any woman and she will tell you; a man should never “ask” for a kiss. Asking for a kiss goes against everything a woman is looking for in a man. You may as well just tell her right there that you are a boy. Her answer might be “yes” if she’s being polite, but her attraction meter on the inside will read a firm, “no!”
4. “Can I take you out on a date sometime?”
Similar to No. 1, a woman wants to be with a man who is a leader and in control, not someone who asks her permission to hit on her. Don’t ever ask a woman if you can take her out, just ask her out. But do it in a confident way. It can be as simple as saying, “We should hang out. What’s your number?” Or even telling her a specific place you want to take her: “Hey, let’s take a salsa lesson together, it will be fun!’
5. Anything about your car, job or house that sounds like you are trying to impress her
Do you know what kind of men brag about their cars, jobs and houses to women? Well, the truth is a lot of different kinds of men, but women put them all in one category: guys who have nothing else to offer. I’m serious, ask any attractive woman about this and she’ll agree. Sure, you may attract some women, but even those women will be far more impressed by your material possessions if you don’t mention them in conversation.
6. If I Follow You Home Will You Keep Me?
Anything that suggests stalking is not a good idea. Even if you are just joking! It may have worked a few decades ago but in this age of murder-drama television, people are a little bit more suspicious of creepy comments like that.
Not only do you have to be concerned about coming off as a stalker but you also don’t want to seem too needy. By suggesting anything that implies her taking care of you, you are sending the message that she’s going to have to put in work with you, and that’s not a turn-on.
The best suggestion for picking up a woman is to avoid all pickup lines at all costs and instead approach a woman and just talk to her. This will win you more points all around and your chances of getting a date will increase by a huge amount.